Achieving balance is never easy and I think to some degree it is “normal” to be off-balance. We just have to watch how far our scales tip to one side. That’s where the danger lies. In last month’s post I admitted that I was “Breaking the Code” in order to tip my scale back in the other direction. When your muscles are used to something for a very long time, they resist new routines. For example, I have poor posture, and therefore, my muscles are exhausted when I attempt to hold my shoulders in a “normal” way. The muscles must be retrained to accept the new way.
Retraining a brain to think in alternate ways is similar. My inner doubter has been challenging me in ways I’d love to shake off immediately. But it takes time. Even though I know perfection is impossible, my drive keeps convincing me that I need to give more. Do more. Be more. Strive for perfection, or a better version of who I am. But, as noted in last month’s post, I am setting my foot down. I’m starting to tell myself no. Even though I could push myself to give another ounce or pint or gallon, I am asking myself, “What is this costing you?” The answer may be “sleep” or “family connections” or “a personal break,” all crucial things to staying healthy and happy. And human.
Yes, our own happiness matters in big ways. So, how about we set our schedules? I am guilty of feeling like I need to respond to people right away when they need help. Whether by email or social media or a phone call, I feel the need to be there. As I start to set boundaries, I implemented a business policy a few months back that is helping a little, but I’d also like to curb my need to respond to others right away. I am also working to prioritize family, limit screen time, stick to business & volunteer hours and schedule my own writing time.
Of course, sometimes a schedule has to be rearranged to respect others involved. And then there is the upheaval of a schedule when school is out for summer. Yikes! Almost time! I will do my best to respect my wishes.
How will you respect your wishes?
If we check in with one another at least once a month, then maybe we’ll take the time to try to grow toward our goals before next month, right?
Yes, our own happiness matters in big ways. So, how about we set our schedules? I am guilty of feeling like I need to respond to people right away when they need help. Whether by email or social media or a phone call, I feel the need to be there. As I start to set boundaries, I implemented a business policy a few months back that is helping a little, but I’d also like to curb my need to respond to others right away. I am also working to prioritize family, limit screen time, stick to business & volunteer hours and schedule my own writing time.
Of course, sometimes a schedule has to be rearranged to respect others involved. And then there is the upheaval of a schedule when school is out for summer. Yikes! Almost time! I will do my best to respect my wishes.
How will you respect your wishes?
If we check in with one another at least once a month, then maybe we’ll take the time to try to grow toward our goals before next month, right?
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