ReFoReMo Day 7: Tom Lichtenheld Approaches Uncomfortable Subjects

3/7/2016

By Tom Lichtenheld

I admire picture books that teach a lesson about uncomfortable subjects without being preachy. These selections deliver a message by provoking thought rather than stating a moral.

By subject:

Death
Where Do We Go When We Disappear?
Isabel Minhós Martins / Madalena Matoso

Using examples such as puddles that evaporate and sands that shift, the book suggests that change is constant and natural; a viewpoint which softens but doesn’t ignore our own mortality.

Redemption
The Promise
Nicola Davies / Laura Carlin

A young street thief accosts a woman and tries to steal her bag. The victim will give over the bag only if the thief promises to “plant them.” It turns out the bag is full of acorns, which the thief, as promised, plants throughout the city, transforming the landscape and herself.

Imperialism
Jemmy Button
Jennifer Uman / Valerio Vidali / Alix Barzelay

Based on the true story of a young boy who, in 1830, was taken from Tierra del Fuego and shipped to England to be taught the ways of civilized society. Things go south.

Irrational Fears
Scaredy Squirrel
Mélanie Watt

I love Scaredy’s temporary transformations because they’re more realistic than the customary hero who completely overcomes his or her shortcomings.

Materialism
The Gift of Nothing
Patrick McDonnell

Patrick McDonnell delivers a fun, thoughtful reminder that the best gift is simply ourselves.

Tom is giving away a signed copy of the New York Times Bestselling picture book I WISH YOU MORE, in which he illustrated! Thanks, Tom! To be eligible for this prize, you must be fully registered, comment on every post, read daily, and keep a record of your progress.

Tom Lichtenheld is a children’s book author and illustrator. His books are noted for their humor, expressive characters, and rich – sometimes hidden – detail. He’s known for creating books that appeal to children and adults alike, and his wide portfolio of books offers something for every age. For more information visit tomlichtenheld.com

215 Comments

Katelyn Aronson

3/7/2016 05:03:19 am

TOM LICHTENHELD!!! (Oops, sorry...feeling a little star-struck right now, because I'm a big fan of Tom's work.) Thank you, Tom, for pointing out not only books that help kids wrestle with big issues, but ones that do it without being heavy-handed. Inspiring!

Joy Main

3/7/2016 05:40:46 am

Great post thank you Tom. I'm in awe of these books because they do something so difficult so well. Another that I have on my reading pile right now is The Memory Tree by Brittany Teckentrup. It deals beautifully with death and remembering the person who has passed.

Joy Main

3/7/2016 05:43:18 am

Sorry that should be Britta Teckentrup (grrrrrrrrrrr, predictive text!)

Tanya Konerman link

3/7/2016 05:48:43 am

Great mentor texts...heading to the library today!

Karla Valenti

3/7/2016 05:48:55 am

This is so important in children's literature! Far too often we try to shelter children from these big feelings but I think we do them a disservice when we do that. Children experience these things regardless of whether we address them and children's literature plays an important role in helping them learn that they are not alone in these emotions (and perhaps even offering some coping strategies). Thank you Tom for addressing this!

Andrea link

3/7/2016 05:54:57 am

I'm grateful there are authors and illustrators who choose to tackle subjects which can open the door to discussion or help children work through and acknowledge feelings. So important! Thanks for this list!

Caroline Webster link

3/7/2016 06:01:03 am

I find myself drawn to uncomfortable subjects when writing. I write across genres, and I've been trying to convince myself that I may not be able to touch uncomfortable subjects when writing picture books. I'm really grateful that today's lesson explores this. And, I take to heart your message of valuing "picture books that teach a lesson about uncomfortable subjects without being preachy." I also enjoyed Scaredy Squirrel--almost a lesson in learning to live in our own skin--slowly stretching out, but remaining ourselves nevertheless. Thank you!

Rebecca Colby

3/7/2016 06:02:30 am

Great post and great recommendations! Thanks for these!

Sharon Giltrow

3/7/2016 06:24:07 am

Thanks Tom for sharing mentor texts that help children to understand difficult subjects.

Denise Engle

3/7/2016 06:25:46 am

The power of the written word continues to amaze me, especially when touching upon sensitive issues. Children's books are excellent options for teachers to use to present difficult topics.

Lucky Jo

3/7/2016 06:50:41 am

Thanks, Tom. I also like Scaredy Squirrel for his endearing, can-do attitude. (And I enjoyed reading and re-reading Duck! Rabbit! for ReFoReMo last week).

Linda Chavez

3/7/2016 06:56:11 am

Thank you for pointing us to these thought provoking selections!

Terri Degezelle link

3/7/2016 07:07:37 am

Thank you for bring some very important topics to my attention. These books are veto good examples.Thank you.

Laura Purdie Salas link

3/7/2016 07:15:42 am

Lovely roundup. I've read a couple of these beautiful books and will be reading the others today! I'm drawn to sort of dark or melancholy topics sometimes, but they're obviously a tough fit for the picture book form. When the rare one works and is published, it's such a thing of beauty. I adore Tom's funny books AND I love I Wish You More. Thanks for the post!

Lisa Connors link

3/7/2016 07:48:31 am

I don't know three of these titles and am happy that I am going to the library today. Thanks!

Mary Boehmer

3/7/2016 07:50:32 am

Thank you for sharing with us! Wow, great recommendations and great post for such a complex topic. As an elementary school librarian we have some many children who are trying to deal with these emotional topics, picture books are a wonderful way to let them express while we read:) And your books are amazing Tom! your sensitivity in bridging this gap is so needed!
Happy Reading!

Kathy Halsey

3/7/2016 08:02:44 am

Tom, great choices and kids DESERVE books on uncomfortable topics. There are some here I don't know. Gonna delve in. AND, I adore the heartfelt I WISH YOU MORE.

Monique Wakefield

3/7/2016 08:13:09 am

Thank you Tom for such a wonderful post. Great mentor text to study about sensitive issues.

Amy Murrell

3/7/2016 08:15:26 am

As an acceptance-based child psychologist, I've used Scared Squirrel in treatment. I wasn't familar with any of the others and was only able to find I Wish You More. I loved it, wish didn't surprise me as I'm a big fan of many the author's other PBs. I'm writing about a difficult topic so I wish I could see more examples but the post was great! Thanks, Tom, for telling us a bit about each book! -Amy

Patricia Nozell

3/7/2016 08:16:52 am

Wonderful post; I am especially happy that you highlight topics other than mortality; there are so many more tough topics and too few books that deal with them. Thank you for listing some of these.

Sue Poduska

3/7/2016 08:17:59 am

Great choices! Thanks, Tom.

Manju Howard

3/7/2016 08:18:10 am

Hi, Tom! I love your illustrations. I gave a copy of I WISH YOU MORE to my niece. And I appreciate your making of post -https://nerdybookclub.wordpress.com/2015/05/20/the-story-of-i-wish-you-more-by-tom-lichtenheld/

debra daugherty

3/7/2016 08:29:37 am

Thanks, Tom, for sharing books which teach difficult lessons. Great choices and now must reads on my list.

Cathy Ballou Mealey link

3/7/2016 08:35:47 am

Tom's first line is so important: "deliver a message by provoking thought rather than stating a moral."

Going to chew on that one for some time.

Linda Thomas

3/7/2016 08:41:50 am

Thank you, Tom, for these book recommendations. I look forward to reading them!

joanne sher link

3/7/2016 08:58:59 am

Still waiting for two if these books (on their way to my local library), but I am absolutely amazed and enchanted by "The Promise." Thank you so VERY much for the recommendations, and your thoughts.

Ginger Weddle

3/7/2016 09:01:53 am

Hats off to those who write and illustrate picture books that deliver these light-handed lessons. Life can be difficult to navigate, thanks for helping children find their way!

Nancy Ramsey

3/7/2016 09:01:54 am

Thanks for this post! Great recommendations!

Lynn Davidson link

3/7/2016 09:02:22 am

I was able to get hold of three of these books. They say so much - sometimes in words, often times in illustrations. Combined they are powerful.
Thank you, Tom, for bringing this to the forefront of our education here! :)

Virginia Law Manning link

3/7/2016 09:04:28 am

Thank you, Tom, for bringing our attention to these picture books that cover important--hard to talk about topics. Picture books are such a great way to begin a conversation with a child! I love your work and happy to see several are included on the ReFoReMo reading list!!! Thanks again!

Ashley Pierson

3/7/2016 09:05:04 am

This is such a great post Tom! Thanks! I WISH YOU MORE is a favorite of mine.

Robin Currie link

3/7/2016 09:06:56 am

This is exactly what I am working on now! I spent last week analyzing picutre books on loss. I also see about 15 new ones listed an Amazon to be published this year! Thank you for the attention to tough subjects!

debbie mccue

3/7/2016 09:17:58 am

These are not the type of books that I have read in the past, so you have opened up a new category for me to explore. I look forward to reading the books you suggest. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.

Sue Heavenrich

3/7/2016 09:19:47 am

Thanks, Tom, for tackling uncomfortable subjects... It's so much easier to stick to fun, light topics.

Diane Asyre

3/7/2016 09:23:36 am

Great list - good conversation starters in group or one to one. Organizations such as Annie's Hope and Youth In Need rely on such topics being addressed in books for all ages. If you are able - please donate such books to similar organizations in your area.

Donna L Martin link

3/7/2016 09:23:52 am

I've always wondered how some authors are able to tackle those harder topics without either sounding "preachy" or heavy handedly imposing THEIR one sided view on a universal subject. This offers nice mentor texts to help my learning curve...

Great post!

Kirsten Larson

3/7/2016 09:28:21 am

Having a strong theme or lesson without hitting the reader over the head is always a tough business. Thanks Tom!

Sara Gentry

3/7/2016 09:29:29 am

Thank you for the suggested book list. I am a believer in books that help kids face difficult issues. My 5-year old just had her tonsils out last fall, and I was so thankful our library had a picture book all about it. I think it helped prepare her, and she seemed less afraid about it all. On another note, let me join the others before me who praised your work. I just read Exclamation Mark for the first time on ReFoReMo Day 1 and loved it. It is now a favorite!

Stephanie Gray

3/7/2016 09:29:56 am

Such wonderful mentor texts, most of which I was unfamiliar with before now. Thank you so much.

Brook Gideon link

3/7/2016 09:36:10 am

Tom, thank you so much for the great post on hard subjects, I had a few of the books on hand but am waiting for the rest from the library. I have to say these types of books are often my favorites. Hopefully, one day I can tackle a story with a difficult subject just as gracefully!

Mary Worley

3/7/2016 09:36:17 am

I'm so glad we have books like the ones listed here. Now, I'm reconsidering my approach to a WIP.

carole calladine link

3/7/2016 09:38:36 am

Wonderful, thoughtful post. I, too like books on difficult subjects without being preachy. Thanks for sharing your favorites.

Lindsay Hanson Metcalf

3/7/2016 09:39:40 am

I agree that kids need these types of books. Thanks for pointing me to several I hadn't read.

Linda Schueler

3/7/2016 09:39:54 am

Good point about Scaredy Squirrel.

Marianne Kuzujanakis link

3/7/2016 09:46:51 am

So honored to read this post from one of my favorite illustrators of such memorable PBs. Important topic. Great mentor texts. Thanks!

Melissa Rutigliano

3/7/2016 09:53:41 am

This is a great day for Reformo and these are wonderful mentor texts. I, myself, am currently working on a MS that deals with a conflict that surrounds an uncomfortable topic. I am trying to take the audience through the challenge by staying positive and trying not to be preachy. I hope I am doing it correctly! These texts are a help and an inspiration, especially since they are all very different. I'm inspired to go to the library today and read a few more to help me further with my own research. Thanks!

Rita Lorraine Hubbard link

3/7/2016 10:00:11 am

Hi Tom, great post on a really great subject. I'm especially interested in reading Where Do We Go When We Disappear, and The Gift of Nothing. As a former special education teacher, I still cross paths with so many children who have lost a parent or guardian, as well as children who have been shuffled around so much that they feel there's something wrong with them. These two books may be the beginning of something big! Thank you. :)

Maria Johnson

3/7/2016 10:05:32 am

I love THE PROMISE so much I've given it away as a present.
Great list & great descriptions & new titles for me to explore.

Rachel Hamby link

3/7/2016 10:09:33 am

Thanks, Tom! These books sound interesting, for some reason, my library didn't have any of them! I did find some others that deal with difficult topics, though. When done well, they really are great.

Vicki Reinhardt

3/7/2016 10:12:02 am

I am grateful to authors/illustrators who tackle uncomfortable subject matter. I praise those of you who can do this! =)

Susan Deo

3/7/2016 10:12:12 am

Thanks so much, Tom! Books on difficult subjects are so important. I'm going to share the ones on your list that we don't have in our library with our librarians. They are keen for me to share these. So far they've had most of the ReFoReMo books. I might add City Dog, Country Frog By Mo Willemstad, illustrated by Jon J Muth. It's a lovely and sensitive handling of loss of a friend.

AJ Irving link

3/7/2016 10:27:21 am

Great post, Tom! I'm excited to read these mentor texts. Thank you!

Lisa Williams

3/7/2016 10:27:50 am

These are the hardest to write. They are also the ones sought out by librarians to help patrons in need. Thanks for the post.

MD Knabb

3/7/2016 10:29:56 am

Some families really need books like these and for those who don't, a great start for conversation. Thanks, Tom.

Val McCammon

3/7/2016 10:39:33 am

Excellent examples for the tough stuff kids need to be able to deal with and we can't shy away from. Thanks, Tom.

Kirsti Call

3/7/2016 10:39:35 am

I really enjoyed reading your mentor text suggestions, Tom! And I'm also a big fan of all your books!

Lori Dubbin

3/7/2016 10:41:58 am

Thank you for suggesting these mentor texts. Uncomfortable subjects are hard to write. These are great food for provoking thought.

Anita Jones link

3/7/2016 10:47:59 am

Only by doing a book search, would I come across a familiar name....Tom Lichtenheld! I recognized it, because there was a book on our list, called, "Exclamation Mark" by Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld. I read the book and took away many profound..(or what I would consider profound discoveries for myself)..lessons that taught about indiiduality, peer pressure, self-discovery and acceptance. I'm so impressed with this article on "uncomfortable subjects." Thank you Tom!!

Sheri Rad

3/7/2016 10:48:41 am

I found these books sad and unhappy reads except Scaredy Squirrel.
I wouldn't purchase one with the dark colors and these themes. On the other hand, they did introduce me to new styles and themes.

Deborah Allmand

3/7/2016 10:53:15 am

Tom,very thoughtful and provactive post. Teaching without preaching is very difficult to achieve but the end result is so much bettet. Thank you for your thoughts today and the great prize!

Julie Burchstead

3/7/2016 10:57:32 am

I own and love I Wish You More, but had no idea before today of the rich tapestry of Tom's work. I am glad our paths crossed in REFOREMO. Stories are such a way to open thinking and discussion about all things, but especially to provide a gentle path for difficult things.

Holly Samson Hall

3/7/2016 10:59:07 am

Thank you! This is a subject dear to me. We have experienced several deaths in our family over the last few years, and I keep an open dialogue with my three children on the subject. Right now, my 4 year old asks questions about where we go when we die nearly every day. I'm actually working on a manuscript centered around the loss of a grandparent as we speak.

Marlene Rohr link

3/7/2016 11:04:44 am

This is a timely topic for me as I have been looking for books to share with my grandson as our daughter will be having major surgery next week to remove a cancerous tumor. We all need to be willing to face uncomfortable subjects and picture books like these mentor texts help not only children, but also the adults who are reading them as well. Thanks Tom!

Angie Quantrell

3/7/2016 11:06:54 am

Thank you for sharing some good books on tough subjects. I love how picture books can tackle things that are hard to talk about. What a help for parents, teachers, and children!

Nina

3/7/2016 11:07:00 am

Many sensitive subjects are well handled in these books. Great examples. Thanks.

Chana Stiefel link

3/7/2016 11:18:59 am

Ahhh! A post from one of my favorite illustrators. Thank you for these terrific & important mentor texts. I wasn't familiar with any of them until now. PS I WISH YOU MORE is beautiful.

Natalie Rompella link

3/7/2016 11:19:30 am

Such a wonderful and important genre. I'm intrigued to read The Promise (by library didn't have it in, so I have to wait).

dfrybarger

3/7/2016 11:23:58 am

Thank you, Tom, for these mentor texts. I will be looking for these!

Anna Forrester link

3/7/2016 11:29:38 am

Thanks Tom -- a nice list to mull. It's always an interesting conundrum to find good ways to broach these topics given the market demand for funny funny funny!

Janie Reinart

3/7/2016 11:39:23 am

Thank you for the great new titles to explore.

Elizabeth Duncan link

3/7/2016 11:41:23 am

Thanks for the introduction to these thought provoking books for children. The books get to the crux of difficult topics without being too preachy or superficial. Very interesting reading.

Ashley Bankhead

3/7/2016 11:54:43 am

Thanks for the post, and for the great mentor texts.

Juli Caveny link

3/7/2016 11:57:04 am

These are WONDERFUL suggestions! I can't wait to find them and read them all! Thanks for sharing, Tom!

Kristi Veitenheimer link

3/7/2016 12:04:12 pm

Wow, I love these topics! Thanks for some suggestions of mentor texts that I hadn't seen before.

Martin Segal link

3/7/2016 12:04:15 pm

Thanks for the great list, Tom! Good to know there are books dealing with these difficult subjects.

Sue Ganz-Schmitt link

3/7/2016 12:07:03 pm

Redemption! New favorite. Thank you so much Tom :)

Annette Bay Pimentel link

3/7/2016 12:15:22 pm

I was especially impressed that Gift of Nothing and Scaredy Squirrel tackled difficult subjects while still being funny!

Jaclyn Kruzie link

3/7/2016 12:15:54 pm

Tackling such sensitive subjects is always a bit scary. Thank you for leading us all in the right direction with these worth examples.

Carla Ketner

3/7/2016 12:16:18 pm

Thanks for the reminder that children's books can honestly deal with difficult subjects without being preachy.

And I love I Wish You More. It's one of my current favorites!

Heidi Yates

3/7/2016 12:17:11 pm

Thank you for this wonderful post Tom! I love the reading choices you shared. :)

Sydney O'Neill

3/7/2016 12:20:56 pm

Tom, thank you for these recommendations. I especially look forward to reading Scaredy Squirrel and I Wish You More.

Lori Gravley link

3/7/2016 12:24:37 pm

It's so hard to tackle these subjects without preaching and these mentor texts tell good stories with strong messages and no pounding on the lectern. Thank you.

Leah Heilman Schanke

3/7/2016 12:24:44 pm

Great post and very powerful and moving mentor texts. Thank you!

Michael Karg link

3/7/2016 12:29:04 pm

The beauty of books without a spelled-out message is how they leave room for us to craft our own. Thanks, Tom!

Melissa Stoller link

3/7/2016 12:32:57 pm

Thank you, Tom, for these excellent mentor texts and for your insightful post. I really enjoy your work!

Michele Manning

3/7/2016 12:46:06 pm

Smiling as I read "Green spread through the city like a song, breathing to the sky, drawing down the rain like a blessing." from The Promise. Thank you for introducing these books to me, Tom.

Mona

3/7/2016 12:53:09 pm

Thank you for this thoughtful post and leads to thought provoking mentor texts.

Maria Gianferrari link

3/7/2016 12:55:09 pm

Thanks for these recommendations, Tom, since I'm unfamiliar with all but two of them, and it's such an important topic. I love the different ways the same theme has been approached. Love your work too!

Jodi McKay

3/7/2016 12:55:55 pm

I love these kinds of books. They play such an important role in normalizing tough situations for kids and I applaud the authors that give them to us. Thanks for this post, Tom!

Donna Cangelosi link

3/7/2016 12:56:13 pm

What a beautiful selection of mentor texts! Thank you,Tom. Speaking of beautiful- I love your books!

Alice Fulgione

3/7/2016 01:03:43 pm

I recently read both "The Promise" and "Where Do We Go When We Disappear?" I felt that both books successfully dealt with uncomfortable subjects. I'm looking forward to reading your other suggestions. Thanks for the great post!

Lenne' Musarra

3/7/2016 01:03:47 pm

I have always sought out picture books that deal with difficult topics to help me, children in my family and children in a classroom. I love the simplicity, elegance, creativity and often surprisingly, light, path that authors and illustrators use to open up a difficult topic for discussion. Thank you for your post.

Tracey Brown

3/7/2016 01:07:24 pm

Thank you, Tom for your post and your books!

Charlotte Dixon

3/7/2016 01:26:38 pm

Thank you, Tom, for sharing books that speak of important things without being didactic. Children need to know how to handle difficult subjects and your examples are excellent.

Beverly Marsh

3/7/2016 01:30:42 pm

Thank you for your book suggestions. Look forward to reading them.

Lisa Billa

3/7/2016 01:30:52 pm

Thank you for the recommendations- look forward to finding the ones I haven't read yet. Opening up difficult subjects is such an important job for children's books! (and children's authors and illustrators)

Cecilia McCarthy

3/7/2016 01:34:06 pm

Thank you for sharing these mentor texts.

Valarie Gigoas

3/7/2016 02:00:05 pm

Great recommendations that I look forward to reading. I have a MS that, while isn't a difficult topic per se, is difficult to present. Hopefully these will help me figure it out.

Katie Parnell

3/7/2016 02:06:42 pm

Thank you for the post Tom! I can't wait to read these tonight and dive further into this topic!

Julia Wasson

3/7/2016 02:17:37 pm

Children are often hungry for books and conversation about the same issues and questions as adults. Picture books can bridge these conversations with a depth that's appropriate for kids. Great post, thank you.

Gabrielle Snyder link

3/7/2016 02:26:34 pm

These all sound fantastic. Thanks for the suggestions, Tom. And I'm a fan of your work! I especially love your illustrations for THIS IS A MOOSE -- so funny!

Alan Elliott link

3/7/2016 02:45:14 pm

Children are in the real world, and when we can gently introduce them them reality, it is an important accomplishment.

Charlene Steadman

3/7/2016 02:47:37 pm

"Deliver a message by provoking thought rather than stating a moral." I will have to reread this statement many times. It is definitely a challenge. Thanks for helping us with these many fine books.

Bethany Roberts link

3/7/2016 03:05:50 pm

Thanks for the great list! I often read Scaredy Squirrel to kids, and they love it. The others, however, are all new to me, and I look forward to reading them today.

Meena

3/7/2016 03:06:14 pm

I love Tom's illustrations. Recently read Stick & Stone, Duck Rabbit, and E-mergency. I can't wait to check out his suggested collection. Thanks!

darlene koppel link

3/7/2016 03:19:30 pm

Your post really got me thinking in a different way about Picture Books. Thanks so much for the inspiration.

Anne Appert link

3/7/2016 03:20:58 pm

Can't wait to get to the library to get these books! Thank you for your post.

Shelley Kinder

3/7/2016 03:22:34 pm

Can't wait to check out these books. Kids definitely need these kinds of topics. Thanks for bringing these titles to my attention.

Judy Cooper link

3/7/2016 03:31:34 pm

Scaredy Squirrel is the only book I was able to get in time for today's reading list. Love the book! Hysterical! Looking forward to reviewing the others when they come in off hold in my local library.

Traci Bold link

3/7/2016 03:32:56 pm

Every one of these books are terrific examples of heavy hitting subjects but written with warmth and easy understanding. They drive home a point in a soft hitting way. The same for 'I Wish You More' which I read last year. Excellent book on a hard subject. Thank you Tom for sharing these with us and for thoughtful insight on touchy subjects for PB's.

Jena Benton

3/7/2016 03:36:10 pm

Thank you for bringing some interesting and challenging new reads to our attention!

Chris Perry link

3/7/2016 03:44:03 pm

I love how these posts present different ways of thinking. I definitely have to read the book Where Do We Go When We Disappear. Talking about the end by showing evaporation etc. Genius.

Laura Renauld

3/7/2016 03:47:53 pm

I just read BOATS FOR PAPA by Jessixa Bagley. It's an incredibly sensitive and child-centered handling of grief.

Linda Carpenter link

3/7/2016 03:54:20 pm

Many thanks Tom for the great post! I am looking forward to reading your books this month.

Sharon Putnam

3/7/2016 03:58:43 pm

Great post Tom! Thank you for tackling uncomfortable subjects. Adults tend to sell children short and want to shelter them from such subjects as death etc… but children experience such emotions
whether we address them or not, Books like these help children feel normal in such situations

tinamariecho@yahoo.com link

3/7/2016 04:00:05 pm

Thank you, Tom, for pointing out these books. I think having these topics in pbs is a wonderful way to reach children.

Carol Nelson

3/7/2016 04:03:11 pm

Thanks for the great list, Tom.

Brenda Huante

3/7/2016 04:03:30 pm

Thank you for your post. So far I've read "The Gift of Nothing " and it's excellent!

Mary Jo Wagner

3/7/2016 04:24:14 pm

Thank you for highlighting these tremendous reads Tom. They will no doubt inform my "tough topic" MS.

Jane Buttery link

3/7/2016 04:55:04 pm

Thank you for your book suggestions. I loved Jemmy and the approach to the way he was used in the 18th century by members of Beagle expedition. I can also see in Scaredy Squirrel, signs of youngsters who have obsessive compulsive disorder, Making that first move as he did accidentally was huge! It is a delightful way to get the point across. I have ordered th Promise but it hasn't yet arrived. I wrote Nana I miss you about how a little boy deals with his grandma's serious illness. I have worked with Hospice and feel it is important to help parents with small children. Thanks for tackling the subject of difficulties like this.

Denise Benavides

3/7/2016 05:02:03 pm

There are so many sensitive topics that would help children to read about. Good post.

Vivian Kirkfield link

3/7/2016 05:15:37 pm

Being able to deliver a great story on a sensitive subject that is appropriate for young kids is something I aspire to. Thank you, Tom, for highlighting these very special books...I just read The Gift of Nothing with my 7 year old grandson...we both loved it! And I love your post...and your work!

Juliana Lee link

3/7/2016 05:19:04 pm

I have to admit, I had not read any of these books previously. Of the five, my favorite was Scaredy Squirrel. But I have read Wish You More, which I love and gave as gifts for Valentines Day this year! :)

Suzy Leopold

3/7/2016 05:22:47 pm

Thank you for sharing excellent mentor texts for uncomfortable subjects.

Sherry Howard link

3/7/2016 05:28:35 pm

This is such a reassuring post. I worry that the only way to reach a niche market is to self-publish, but so many children are touched by sensitive topics besides the death of a grandparent. (Not to minimize that, of course) it's good to see books like this!

Shellley Marshall

3/7/2016 05:44:58 pm

Your post made me ponder how there are many types of LOSS that children experience beginning with separation anxiety (sometimes well into early childhood), loss of a friend or family member who moves away, loss of time spent with both parents at the same time when there is divorce, etc. Thanks for prompting my mind to stir with ideas about these relevant topics.

Kathy Mazurowski

3/7/2016 05:58:35 pm

Thank you for the lists. I will pass this on to teachers.

JEN link

3/7/2016 06:07:36 pm

My personal focus this month is finding deep messages in picture books and using mentor texts to help me put deep messages in my own work. This post is PERFECT for my focus!

Joana Pastro

3/7/2016 06:12:54 pm

Great Post! I absolutely loved The Gift of Nothing. Thanks :)

Kimberly Marcus link

3/7/2016 06:48:08 pm

Thank you for a thought provoking and thoughtful post. The book suggested are inspiring. Thank you!

Karen Condit

3/7/2016 06:58:15 pm

I agree with so many that have commented. Sensitive subjects need to be addressed without being preachy. A craft all its own. Thanks for encouraging me to keep going with some of my earlier writings.

Mary Warth

3/7/2016 07:12:52 pm

Thanks Tom! Several of the titles are new to me. I look forward to reading them.

Noelle McBride

3/7/2016 07:20:23 pm

Thank you for bringing such strong mentor texts to our attention.

Thereseeresr

3/7/2016 07:24:35 pm

Maureen Morrison

3/7/2016 07:37:53 pm

A very timely day for me. I am struggling with a WIP that deals with anxiety. Thanks Tom, lots of great inspiration to motivate and help me along.

lilli

3/7/2016 07:55:48 pm

I love these books! Thank you for such great suggestions. I am really glad for this post as this type of book is my favorite type of book. This selection is not only visually gorgeous and thought provoking but the stories inspire really important discussions and one thinks about the characters and situations long after having read them. Thank you!

Cindy Cornwall

3/7/2016 08:03:39 pm

Thank you Tom for your selection. The only one I've read before is Jemmy Button. I did a review of it for my library's blog because I thought it enjoyed it's perspective and illustrations. Not "being preachy" is a hard nut to crack, but well worth it.

Keila Dawson link

3/7/2016 08:09:58 pm

Scaredy Squirrel is a good picture book for all ages! Can't wait to read your other recommendations. Thanks for your time and talent.

Cathy Breisacher

3/7/2016 08:11:15 pm

Glad to be reminded of these wonderful books. Thank you.

Sandra Jenkins

3/7/2016 08:20:51 pm

This is a great topic for me to study since I usually shy away from difficult topics. Nice to have good examples.

Trine

3/7/2016 08:25:50 pm

What I like about these thought provokers is that each individual reader can glean something unique from them. We all handle uncomfortable situations in our own way. These authors give us a way to process through story and art. Thanks for sharing them.

Natalie Lynn Tanner

3/7/2016 08:27:32 pm

Tom: I really appreciate your selection of books about uncomfortable subjects. Your message is a great reminder of what picture books are meant to do: teach. I especially like your point about how they "deliver a message by provoking thought rather than stating a moral." This is such important -- CRUCIAL!!! -- advice. THANK YOU for sharing with us and the important work you do!

Heather Pierce Stigall link

3/7/2016 08:27:44 pm

I've only read one of these suggestions before, so I am looking forward to reading some new mentor texts. Thanks for the post!

Celeste Gerard

3/7/2016 08:43:58 pm

Thank you! Love how these books address sensitive topics!

Lydia Lukidis link

3/7/2016 09:22:23 pm

I love this post....I think it's important to tackle these big topics, even in PBs. But again, without being too preachy!! I'm learning the art of allowing children to understand without hitting them over the head with a lesson.

Lotus Ivak link

3/7/2016 09:23:35 pm

Learning SO much! Thanks much Tom!

Naana

3/7/2016 09:51:14 pm

Thank you for the post. I look forward to reading these books.

Dee Leone link

3/7/2016 09:59:11 pm

I haven't read all of those yet, but I look forward to checking out the selections. Thank you for the recommendations.

Megan Taraszkiewicz

3/7/2016 10:06:25 pm

Nice post. I'm never sure how to handle touchy subject with little ones and yet, it's important to initiate the conversation. Great selection of books here!

Helen Dening link

3/7/2016 10:11:36 pm

Thanks for bringing to the forefront the importance of books that talk about difficult topics and in an honest, non-preachy manner.

Susan Wroble link

3/7/2016 10:29:17 pm

A thought provoking list. I was especially fascinated by "Where Do We Go When We Disappear," -- with the story originally in Portuguese and a British Publishing house, it had a very different feel than American books.

Susan Zonca

3/7/2016 10:30:07 pm

I very much appreciate your mentor text recommendations. Great examples and varied in scope.

Lauri Meyers link

3/7/2016 10:30:50 pm

I admit I sometimes shy away from reading uncomfortable topics to the kids, because it's, well, uncomfortable. However, I'm always pleasantly surprised by the conversations which result when I'm brave enough to trust my kids.

Emily J

3/7/2016 10:39:13 pm

Thank you for this post Tom! I admire writers who will take on the tough stuff!

DeLeon

3/7/2016 10:41:21 pm

First of all, Tom, I love your books and I know my babies do too :-) Great selection! And, a subject I never thought of: how to explain complicated things to tiny minds that are starting to discover the world. From now on, I will pay more attention to the simple ways to explain the difficult and uncomfortable subjects!

Jennifer Cole Judd link

3/7/2016 10:49:46 pm

Thanks for this post; Scaredy Squirrel is a household favorite. These titles are great and eye opening; it's good to see how difficult subjects can be handled with grace and creativity in children's books. Very insightful!

Bev Baird

3/7/2016 10:56:53 pm

All wonderful mentor texts. One of my favs. has always been "Wilfrid Gordon McDonald Partridge" by Mem Fox. With so many of elderly now - wonderful book to share.

Susie Sawyer link

3/7/2016 10:57:58 pm

Tough challenge, to write about difficult subjects without being preachy. Great mentor texts! Thank you!!

Angela

3/7/2016 11:08:30 pm

I wouldn't have known where to start - thanks for the compass.

Carol Cole link

3/7/2016 11:08:33 pm

What great examples of expressing a message in a subtle and comforting ways. I love the twist in "Scaredy Squirrel" when he finds out that he has a hidden talent.

Laurie Bouck

3/7/2016 11:23:10 pm

Thanks Tom for this thought provoking post! I will definitely be looking for these books at the library my next trip. I haven't had a lot of experience with delicate subject matters as these, so I really appreciate sharing these great examples.

Ju'nelle Skelton

3/8/2016 12:23:45 am

I like the idea of taking a children's book to gently approach sensitive topics. I recalled then a child that I used to babysit, lost her grandma. I was searching for a book that discusses death, and I found I'm Not Going To Get Up Today, by Dr. Seuss. She enjoyed the book and I think it helped her to understand the concept of death.

Angela Turner

3/8/2016 02:00:11 am

I have never tried to write about these kind of topics. Reading these books was enlightening.

Cheryl Kim

3/8/2016 05:36:28 am

Thank you for the recommendations- they're powerful! And you've also written and illustrated so many powerful and beautiful stories too! Thanks for a great post!

Jess Townes link

3/8/2016 07:27:33 am

Wow, this was a powerful list! I found a lot of value in reading these texts and their approaches to diffcult topics. Kids' lives are rarely trouble-proof, and being able to see themselves in a character in a similar situation, and have that "me too" moment, that's at the heart of why we do this work. Thank you for sharing.

Janet Smart link

3/8/2016 07:34:06 am

Some subjects are hard to write about, but they need to be addressed. The problem is doing it right. I've been working on a manuscript about what a boy does when he misses his daddy.

Anita Banks

3/8/2016 07:57:47 am

I look forward to reading your suggestions.

Ann Magee

3/8/2016 08:27:49 am

Thanks, Tom. Some new titles here for me to check out!

Annelouise Mahoney link

3/8/2016 08:41:23 am

: ) Tom, these are wonderful. Thank you for sharing these books with us, they'll be our mentors, and I appreciate each one.

Karen Brady link

3/8/2016 10:23:00 am

These books are wonderful examples of how a book can teach but not preach. As Tom mentions, it's important to communicate a message not a moral. These books can be challenging to write, but when they're done well, they're invaluable!

Tom Lichtenheld link

3/8/2016 10:43:51 am

Thanks for all of your feedback. Some of the comments remind me that these books are out of the mainstream, probably because of the subject matter and the fact they were initially produced by foreign publishers. I have to thank my local library in Geneva, Il., where I can always count on finding interesting releases in the new picture book section. I give my library lots of credit for putting a diverse range of material in front of children.

Therese Nagi

3/8/2016 11:09:03 am

Tom thanks for showing us a range of picture books that discuss difficult subjects.

carrieapear@aol.com link

3/8/2016 11:09:53 am

Tough topics are all the more difficult for children who often believe they caused the situation or at least were part of the problem. Thanks for the encouragement to tackle the tough stuff, too.

Melanie Ellsworth

3/8/2016 11:25:41 am

Thanks, Tom, for sharing on a variety of tough topics, some of which I hadn't considered. In my critique group, we've been talking about how to write a PB on domestic violence - a really hard topic to tackle in PB form.

Sharon Constantino

3/8/2016 11:28:13 am

Having worked in grades UPK-3 for fifteen years, I've read many of the books listed about grief. Every year we have someone who loses a pet, grandparent, parent, sibling or friend and we pull out our big bin of 'death' books. It is SO important! Another good book is IDA ALWAYS by Carrn Lewis. I'm submitting my picture book manuscript, LOVE NEVER DIES to agents now. It was inspired by the death of my brother. Thanks so much, Tom for the insightful post on difficult topics.

christie allred link

3/8/2016 11:30:27 am

You are so lucky that your library has a diverse range of material, Tom! Nice topic today. Actually, ReFoReMo topics are ALL nice, so it goes without saying :)

Lynn Alpert link

3/8/2016 11:38:05 am

Thanks for the examples of titles about difficult subjects - an area I find extremely difficult to tackle!

Nancy Rimar

3/8/2016 11:55:11 am

Great list and post - thanks Tom.

Lauren Kerstein link

3/8/2016 01:37:39 pm

These are such fantastic mentor texts! Thank you. I can't wait to read them. I WISH YOU MORE is a beautiful book!

Jarm Del Boccio link

3/8/2016 03:00:31 pm

Thanks for introducing us to these books, Tom. Very enlightening!

Maria Marshall

3/8/2016 03:54:27 pm

I love The Promise. I had not seen it before. The Gift of Nothing is an interesting way to deal with materialism at a child's level. Great post, thank you.

Linda Kujawski link

3/8/2016 06:38:26 pm

Tom, thank you so much for this post and your very thoughtful words about a special kind of story.

Lisa Morgan

3/8/2016 09:12:34 pm

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I enjoyed the journey into the new ideas and stories I've not read.

Pamela Courtney

3/8/2016 10:33:19 pm

There are some titles here that I've not heard before. I can't wait to read these books to see how each is able to deliver without being overly sentimental, yet strategic in its creative offering. Thank you so much ReFoReMo and to Tom.

Sandy Perlic

3/8/2016 10:39:34 pm

I haven't read many picture books on uncomfortable topics, so this will be a great exercise. Thanks for the recommendations!

Bruna de luca

3/9/2016 11:04:36 am

Great post, thanks. It's easy to shy away from these topics but so wonderful and meaningful when tackled in the right way. I was surprised by The Promise. I really wouldn't have thought theft and redemption could be a PB topic. Just goes to show...

Sadee Schilling link

3/9/2016 12:38:16 pm

I enjoy your work so much, Tom. Looking forward to reading your reccommendations! Thank you.

Colleen Paeff link

3/9/2016 03:20:29 pm

Thanks, Tom!

sue Twiggs

3/9/2016 05:31:34 pm

Tom,
thanks for this list of books. this is an area i want to write about but haven't been inspired. these books may just do it. When I was a therapist we were always looking for books to address what the children were dealing with.

Amanda Sincavage

3/9/2016 11:23:10 pm

Thanks Tom - great variety of texts. Day 8 Rabbityness would be a great fit too.

Karen Bell

3/10/2016 09:25:39 am

Thanks for the post on writing picture books about difficult topics. What a great way for a child's parent to approach a difficult topic by using a medium that is so familiar to children.

LuAnn Kern

3/10/2016 10:09:20 am

Thanks, Tom. I've got an idea for a difficult topic but didn't know how to proceed. These examples will be quite helpful.

Ali Bovis

3/10/2016 10:45:42 am

Thank you so much for this wonderful post! It is hard to deliver a message or teach a lesson without being preachy and I appreciate all these amazing mentor texts to see how it is done.

Cecilia

3/10/2016 11:15:10 am

Thanks for the suggestions. Looking forward to reading.

Anne Young

3/11/2016 03:21:01 am

Here is a fabulous discussion about The Promise by Nicola Davies. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjtaB2ij2PQ
(Apologies if anyone has already posted this.)

Christine Rodenbour

3/11/2016 10:20:07 am

Enlightening post and texts!

Shari Della Penna link

3/11/2016 10:27:06 am

Thanks for sharing these good examples.

Joan Swanson

3/11/2016 10:38:47 am

I love the Gift of Nothing. I wish more parents would help children realize this concept:)

Claire Noland link

3/12/2016 12:43:44 pm

This is an incredible list. I'm getting tThe Promise and sharing it with my class. Actually, I think I should share all of these with my class!
By the way, I love I Wish You More. I give it to new parents to celebrate the birth of their babies.

Marilyn Garcia

3/12/2016 05:11:28 pm

Who would have thought to write a picture book about imperialism? I guess nothing's off limits with the right creative spin and an eye to a child's mind and heart. Can't wait to read all of these titles.

Anne-Marie Strohman

3/14/2016 05:45:05 pm

These books all sound beautiful and valuable. Thanks for the recommendations.

Linda Hofke

3/14/2016 07:54:34 pm

I've only read two on this list.I need to go find the others. Imperialism sounds interesting and I know someone who could probably benefit from the Materialism book.

L. Michelle Quraishi link

3/16/2016 01:02:45 pm

Thank you for introducing me to the book, Where Do We Go When We Disappear? Alternately direct, philosophical and funny, it's one of the best discussions of death that I've ever read. I also love Gianna Marino's book about loss and reunion. Meet Me at the Moon.

Myrna Foster

3/17/2016 03:05:07 am

I loved I WISH YOU MORE. This is actually the first post where I haven't read any of the recommended books. I'm excited to dig in.

Shari Della Penna link

3/17/2016 11:31:25 am

Thanks for providing this list of important titles. Gentleness, humor, truth, all without didacticism. Impresive, indeed!

Suzy Leopold

3/19/2016 10:45:31 pm

Picture books written about uncomfortable subjects in life can be a comfort to the reader. Thank you, Tom.

Gabrielle Schoeffield

3/20/2016 09:30:40 am

I will find this useful...I have tried at least 10 revisions of a book on grieving without success. When I pull it back out of the "drawer" to try again I will reread these titles (and any others I can find!) to see if I get a second wind of inspiration!
Thanks, Tom!

Dina Ticas

3/20/2016 06:53:19 pm

I've yet to find 3 of the 5 books on the list. But I felt compelled to find other books that fit the category. I've requested the book "Was it the chocolate pudding?" by Sandra Levins.

Jill Jeffries

3/21/2016 09:30:34 am

I appreciated your mentor texts, thank you!

Rosie Pova

3/21/2016 02:00:16 pm

Very helpful, thank you!

Jilanne Hoffmann

3/22/2016 01:40:00 am

Oooh, I'm really interested in "Where Do We Go When We Disappear." I've never seen that one. Thanks for a list of "nonstandard" books!

Kelly Rice Schmitt

3/22/2016 11:20:23 pm

Tom, thank you for sharing these fantastic books with us! I love how they clearly teach lessons without being obviously message-y. They are done with such grace and approachability. Perfect mentors for tough topics.

Cindy Jolley

3/23/2016 02:32:58 pm

Thank you, Tom. It is difficult to master the message without crossing over to being preachy, and so important to study examples of how it has been done well.

Valarie Giogas

3/30/2016 08:33:34 pm

A couple of these were new to me. Thanks for the new titles!!

Kristen Browning

3/31/2016 11:13:23 am

Thanks for your post and reading suggestions. I enjoyed THE GIFT OF NOTHING and have always liked SCAREDY SQUIRREL. I am still looking for JEREMY BUTTON and WHERE DO WE GO--I am especially interested to read the latter.

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